It's not what you think - not "social networks," and nothing to do with the internet. Those aren't your real friends, obviously. They are entertainment, they are marketers (at least of themselves), and at best, acquaintances... until and if - and it's a big IF - you meet them in PERSON. If you have been tagged and had to unfriend someone, stalked and had to unfriend someone, or been sold at in the first sentence of a friend request, and been forced to unfriend someone, you really know what I am talking about. I've even had an ex-classmate from school days - the most beautiful one in the class - write me seeking some sort of reconnection with a first sentence of, "Why are you friends with so many foreigners?? Don't you like America?"True story. And sad. It's because I love people, I've traveled a great deal, and great people are in every nation and more than worth knowing. If we had to give up all forms of knowledge - books, computers, audio, videos, and people - I'm sure that you would choose PEOPLE, just like me.
To know PEOPLE, the Evolutionary Psychologists might agree, you have to know them in PERSON. (Thus the term!)
It's that evolution is very OLD, and is a very SLOW process, and fortunate or unfortunate as it may be, electronic communication is very RECENT and very NEW. In short, we can't biologically keep up with technology, at the very least in the areas of socializing on a real, person to person basis, in romance and love, and in finding deep meaning through connection to others. Which is a good thing I think. It's part of the unique magic of being human.
I'm sure some of you might be thinking at this point, "Well don't YOU have a facebook account? Don't YOU write emails, and a blog? And don't you in fact, SELL STUFF??"
Yes, yes, and yes.
However, and it's a BIG "however..."
My ultimate goal would be to eventually MEET IN PERSON, every person who takes on our programs. That's REALLY where the learning explodes! (and the whole meaning of my life gets set on fire for me too!)
The same is true of my facebook, and I regularly root out people I either don't want to know, have no chance of meeting personally or learning with in some way, or who are of the stalkerish or "salesy" variety.
What about this "selling stuff" thing?
For one, there is so much free stuff I give away it's nearly not eligible to be calling it "selling," and I will tell you why.
Over seven years ago, my friend, Christian, a marketing expert, not a behavioral expert, once told me that he thought I had the most remarkable material on psychology (growth, attraction, dating) that he had ever heard of, but that he thought I would have a hard time "selling."
It was like providing people with "Superfood for the Mind" at a remarkably low price, when people really would rather pay top dollar for a juicy, unhealthy STEAK.
So from where I can see, if I tell you about an idea, promote it, push it toward you, and tell you that you HAVE to learn it, I know that I know that I know - even if you wanted steak instead - that you will be more advanced, happier, and more well-informed about behavior than any of your peers. If someone doesn't like that, well, okay, it's Superfood for the Mind - what can I say?
Another aspect is that each and every program we provide comes with a FREE MONTH of forums, interviews and live teleseminars. That last item is a really big deal to me, because whether only two of you show up, or 200, I am there on the phone line, once a week, for two hours, for FREE. I want to talk to you personally about how to revolutionize your life with these ideas. I back up this "brain food" IN PERSON.
You and I are REAL PEOPLE, not just "facebook friends."
Now to the topic at hand - what I have been leading up to. I want to mention my friend - a real friend, an IN PERSON friend, Jonny Imerman. This guy has electronic this and electronic that for connecting with people, for sure, but IN PERSON, he is a force to be reckoned with. In only three years, this cancer survivor has found a life's mission, a solitary quest to change the lives of those who fight cancer, and more friends than most of us could possibly imagine having - even on facebook, let alone in PERSON, which is the level of friendship I am talking about.
What makes this guy tick? It's in the monthly interview with him, but I am going to give you some general rules of being socially viral IN PERSON, just like he is a natural master of.
And I'd dare say that at the end of your life, if you could decide between having had 100000 facebook "fans" and ten exceptionally close IN PERSON friends, that you, like me, would choose the latter.
Our courses for men divide up over several areas of the workings of the mind, and we will use those to explain these easy "rules" of being "socially viral in person":
1. To have real friends, be really "friendly."
It's been said many times, but what does this really mean? In KWML Mastery we learn that friendship and "love" are one in the same, which is to say that we make each other "happier" for being together than apart. We mutually raise each other's self-esteem, not cut it down. Since self-esteem is positive emotional energy, then being depressive, whiney, moany, negative, or gossipy in a derogatory way is the opposite of friendship - the starting point on being "socially viral."
What's more, to achieve "best friend" status, we really need a complementary opposite personality from that of our best friends.
It's in KWML Mastery at http://www.womenshappiness.com/kwml
2. To have real friends, and KEEP them, we need character and maturity of the character.
In fact, it is character maturity which makes us durable as friends, reliable, loyal, stable, and lasting in a way that generates even more TRUST in our very real, very personal, very IN PERSON connections to others.
A complete "technology" of character and maturity is covered in the MindOS Mastery Program at http://www.womenshappiness.com/mindos
3. "We like those who like us and we like those who like us." - a quote by, well, ME.
This is actually a corrolary to #2 above, in that when we mature in our character, we feel drawn to "reciprocate" when someone is good, caring, loving, or friendly to us ("we like those who like us.") Evolutionary Psychologists call this "reciprocal altruism," an actual REFLEX, an unconscious, automatic process.
Also, when we mature in our character, we "know ourselves" well, and tend to also like those who share the most values, goals, and beliefs that we do - it makes us natural teammates in life, at least for a time and unless or until we diverge too much in what we hold dear and valuable in the world.
The concepts behind these can be clearly seen in the boundary diagrams, Anger Map and Anxiety Map of the same program: the MindOS Mastery program at http://www.womenshappiness.com/mindos
4. To be truly VIRAL, and exploding in growth of your friendships and social power, appeal to the instincts to make people feel "more alive" or "vital."
What does THAT mean? The "instincts?"
Well, it's those drives, impulses, tendencies and reflexes that I peg into one's sense of being feminine if you are a woman, and being masculine if we were talking about befriending, persuading, and capturing the minds and hearts of men you will know.
At the very least, don't bring down another's sense of identity, belonging, importance, and essentially, their "existence." Harming or manipulating people in this way is called "shame" or "shaming."
Shame is a cut-down of masculinity for males and femininity for females. Lower these and the person feels less "passionate" about life - "less alive" - and less passion for YOU. They might even feel the opposite - "rage."
Amplify the specific traits, needs, and desires of this area of the mind, and you raise the level of a male friend's masculinity, or a female friend's femininity. As those go up, feelings of "passion" and the "lust for life" go UP, all because of YOU.
This is the "secret sauce" to being well-known, socially viral, dominant, and important. And it's the kind of thing that marketers don't want you to know about (because it's really the ONLY thing they know, and what is behind them selling empty information so easily, then having clients be disappointed.)
It's also the stuff of the Complete Feminine Empowerment Program if we were to talk about these instincts in general, in the workplace, or public venues, and the Seventh Sense Program if we were referring to a socially viral connection to men in the romantic arena.
Those are at:
==> www.womenshappiness.com/complete-feminine-empowerment
and
==> www.womenshappiness.com/seventh-sense-program
Those are the four major rules to being "socially viral," and they are the kind of thing you really can't "fake" as a woman. They can become just part of how you do things.
So if you haven't gotten the FREE GNO Dating and Attraction Workshop from home audio course, get it here:
==> http://www.womenshappiness.com/free-girls-night-out-dating-and-attraction-workshop
You'll be glad you did, because womenshappiness.com is where the learning never stops, and the skills are IMMEDIATE.
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